Wednesday 28 August 2013

Beyond The Dream of Motherhood



Beyond The Dream of Motherhood.

My new life.

I enter it with great sadness, but also with great hope for a life of happiness and fulfillment.  For a life of personal achievement and satisfaction.  The kind of life that I wish for all of us who have been forced into childlessness.

So how do we achieve that when we have been through so much heartache and loss?

Step by step.  Little by little.
Searching for the things that make us happy. 
Searching for what we find fulfiilling.
Searching for the things that we enjoy.
Finding healing from all the challenging aspects of our past, not just infertility.
Creating a life not hampered by negative behaviours or emotions.
Creating a life where we are living fully and not held back by our past.
Letting go of it all and living in the present.
Being ALIVE!!!

To that end, there are so many things that work.  For everyone it is different.  We must find our own form of healing as well as our own form of what we enjoy and find fullfilling.  I find it very exciting to hear what other people love doing!

For me, at this moment, there is therapy, kiniesology, naturopathy, swimming, walking, baking, my parents, my great nephew and of course, my husband.

I'm looking forward to finding my way through this new life, to sharing what is working and what is isn't, to hearing what works for you and what doesn't, to being part of an ever increasing community of those of us who are living "Beyond The Dream of Motherhood".

12 comments:

  1. One of the things I've always admired about you, Annie, is your hope for things to become better. You are resilient. I will continue to cheer you in your journey.

    Blessed be!

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    1. Thank you so much Rebecca. Your words mean a great deal to me. It is great to see here on my new blog.

      Love and Light to you
      xxx

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  2. dear Annie,
    I just found your blog via The living a taboo.
    I am looking forward to follow your blog.
    Wishing you all the best.
    lots of love from Europe,
    Klara

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    1. So nice to meet you Klara! Thank you for visiting my blog. I am looking forward to following your journey as well.

      Love and light to you
      xxx

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  3. I came to your blog from Klara's. I look forward to following your journey.
    Illanare

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    1. Nice to mee you as well Illanare! I'm heading over to visit you now!

      Love and Light
      xxx

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  4. Me again Annie,

    Your decision to halt the dream of parenthood is sad, yet it validates YOU as a complete person - not just "the woman who had fertility issues," because the same family and friends who were with you as you were trying to grow your babies are still with you as you enter a new chapter.

    I assume this blog will refer back to the difficulties, as it should, because it will help you and others who share your cross; however, I'm sure you will continue to share your travels and other interests, too... as you said, "Being Alive!" :)

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    1. Oh Anita, you have been with me the whole way. You have always been so encouraging and so hopeful that we would eventually succeed. To have to share this news with you is heartbreaking.

      Your words are once again encouraging. Thank you. Yes, this blog will talk about the difficulties, but I am so looking forward to finding the positives and sharing them as well! They will come in time, I know.

      Much love,
      xx

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  5. Hi, Annie!

    Visiting here from Klara's blog post that linked you. LOVE the tone of this post. :-)

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    1. Thank you Amel! So nice to see you here.
      Love and Light
      xxx

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  6. I'm so glad to have found your blog (via Klara of course). I am always looking for more childfree after infertility blogs. Rediscovering our love for life is what makes us survivors, with or without kids. I'm excited to read more :)

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    1. Hi Dipitie. Welcome! I'm always looking for more of the same blogs as well. :)

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